How many times in your lifetime have you said, “Help! I don’t know what I am doing?”
How many times have you actually said it out loud?
How many times have you actually asked for help?
How many times have you actually gotten help from someone?
How many times have you helped yourself?
I am willing to bet that the majority of the times you have said, “Help! I don’t know what I am doing”, it has been quietly to yourself. I would also say that you have more than likely found a solution all by yourself as well.
Nothing wrong with that at all. Nothing like getting the brain working putting it to use trying to solve your own conundrum.
How long did you keep saying, “Help! I don’t know what I am doing”, to yourself though?
How long did it take for you to come up with the solution you needed to help yourself?
If you are anything like me, you probably said, “Help! I don’t know what I am doing”, waaaaay too many times to keep track of and it took even longer for you to come up with a suitable solution.
Why do we do this to ourselves??????
Is it because we want help, but we are not sure who to trust?
Is it because we want help, but we are not sure who the best person to help us is?
Is it because we want help, but we can’t afford the solution we think will deliver the best outcome for us?
Is it because we want help, but we don’t want to let anyone know we are stuck / confused / overwhelmed (insert any other predicament in here)?
Is it because we want help, but we are scared / afraid of what others will think / say of us and our need of help?
Is it because we want help, but we really haven’t narrowed down specifically what it is we need help with?
How can we get help if we don’t know exactly what it is we need or want help with?
We need to break our “Help!” down.
To give you some ideas on how to get closer to figuring out what it is you need Help! with, ask yourself some questions, such as these:
What outcome is it that I am actually wanting to achieve?
What is it that I actually want to be able to do or have that I don’t believe I have at the moment?
How will the help make a better / significant / positive change to my life / circumstance from what it is now to how I think it will be?
Does my need of Help! have anything to do with:
My go to habit?
Is the Help! I am looking for:
Is my need of help actually real or just perceived to be real?
Is my need of help something that is actually warranted or is it just an excuse?
Sure in some cases, like when you are in water and are having difficulties, people can see that you are struggling and will help to get you out of the water and to safety without you even asking, but most of the time people are unaware of our need or want of help.
Asking for help and saying you don’t know what you are doing is really courageous.
It lets other people see that you are failing / struggling / in difficulties / are uncertain, but that you want to make changes, you want to learn, you want to grow, you want to do something different.
So once you have figured out exactly what it is you are in need of Help! for, actually start asking questions and looking in the right places for answers.
Keep looking, keep asking questions.
Listen to and take on advice you are given, then implement it to see if it will make the difference you are looking for.
If it’s not the outcome you are after, keep looking, keep asking for help, keep letting others know you have tried but you still don’t know what you are doing.
Keep asking and keep looking until you find the solution or person that is right for you, that is willing and able to give you the help you are wanting.
Also, just as importantly, once you have your help and the outcome you were wanting has been achieved, let others know that you needed help, that you didn’t know what you were doing, that you reached out and that you found your answers. Share these results with other women so they too can follow by your example and perhaps use some of your solutions for their issues too.
Don’t be greedy. Share your experiences and outcomes so that other women can have breakthroughs and feel just as triumphant and accomplished as you do.