Do you ever have the feeling that there are not enough waking hours in your day?
Do you get overwhelmed by all the tasks you have to do and worry about how you are going to get them all done?
Do you have a lot of commitments and lots of people relying on you?
Do you ever feel like you used to have a life but that is now a thing of the past for you?
Do you ever wonder why the world is passing you by in a blur?
Well, I’m here to remind you that it is all just a phase you are going through and you will get off that crazy merry-go-round you are on. One day.
It is so easy to feel overwhelmed, confused, frustrated and angry when there are a lot of ‘things’ we would like to do, or that we have to do, that it does literally feel like life is passing us by in a blur. It seems we are alive but not actually living.
Here are some solutions on how to cope and see your way clear again:
Write a List
Write out everything you can remember that you need to do. Then, write out a separate list of all you would like to do. If possible, write down the dates to be completed by beside each task. Doing this can help you to get a visual so it’s not just all jumbled in your head like some impossible jigsaw puzzle.
Do the important or most pressing task first
All the other tasks will get their moment to be completed, or will fall by the wayside if no longer relevant.
Delegate tasks to other people
Give other people the opportunity to step up by lightening your work load and giving others more responsibility.
Ask for help
It is very wise and noble to let other people know you need assistance or their input to help you complete tasks. Or, even better, giving them tasks so you don’t have to do them yourself.
Try to slow yourself, your pace and your racing mind down
How do you do this?
- Take deep, slow breaths. This does actually work.
- Acknowledge and congratulate yourself on what you have achieved so far before moving onto the next task.
- Remind yourself what the outcome will be once you have completed the current task – even if it means you are just crossing another boring job off your list.
- Be kind to yourself. You are human. You are not a machine capable of doing everything all at once.
- Go at a pace that is comfortable for you. You don’t need to work or rush as much as other people if it is only going to put more pressure on yourself or if it means making more mistakes or having accidents.
When you plate is full of tasks, it is best not to take on any more
Even if you know you can do the job, even when it is something you really would like to do or be a part of, even when you are begged or being given really convincing reasons as to why you should take it on. Just don’t do it!
Take time out
This might seem counter productive when you are so busy, but even just a few minutes distraction can help to spur you on again with renewed energy and focus.
Take care of your personal needs:
Adequate physical exercise, nutritious food, drinking plenty of water and having restful sleep.
Leave work at work or for your designated working hours / days
Outside of work hours pursue you personal hobbies and remember to enjoy life. You only get one go at it (well in this life time at least?)
At the end of everyday reflect
Reflect upon what you have done, the difference you have made / are working towards making, to someone else’s life by the actions you have undertaken and try to find at least 3 things each day you are thankful for.
~ When somebody pays you a complement, be gracious enough to accept it, but also take the time to genuinely listen to what is being said and let it soak in and over you.
~ When someone wants to give you a hug / affection, let them and embrace the moment. Human contact can be amazing.
Some days – weeks, months even – can sometimes seem to go by in a blur of endless, routine tasks and dullness. The good thing is they don’t last forever and will soon enough be replaced by the moments when you do have quieter periods where you will be wishing you do have more to do again.
Be careful what you wish for.
Learn to ride the roller coaster of life, work and family with a smile on your face and in your heart so the ride will seem less scary and you will feel more alive and in control.
My final tip:
learn to say NO!
(with an authoritative tone where there can be no doubt about what you have replied or what your intentions are!)